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The Seeds of Harmony Through Meditation by Yang Siew Ting
I am from Malacca, Malaysia and I’ve been married for 23 years. I have two daughters and a son who are 21, 19 and 18 years old. To most people, I’m considered a lucky woman with a happy family.
However, from the time I was young my relationship with my mum was not good at all and at times I would run away from home. Sadly, even when I was married, the situation continued and when I gave birth to my three kids, she didn’t come to help me at all, even though she had been working as a confinement nanny for many years.
I have been with my husband for 19 years, and we rarely quarrelled, so in the eyes of many people, we were a model couple. However, this was just an illusion. Whenever my husband had problems, he would keep quiet and just disregard them.
Personally, I felt his method of dealing with problems was not correct, and I had been telling him this for almost 20 years, but he just turned a deaf ear to me.
In 2008, I was introduced to a technique known as “Past Life Regression”, and using this system, I could see what my personal problems were. I wanted my husband to learn this method as well, but he didn’t want to. I started to use “force” on him but he resisted, we started fighting and our marriage was in jeopardy. We could not communicate at all, and we seldom talked to each other.
Each time a serious problem arose, I would choose to run away from home, because I didn’t have other better ways to solve the problem.
When I ran away from home, my husband would not do anything at all and in the end I would have to go back home to reconcile and this lasted for the past few years.
In 2011, I watched Geshe Michael’s Retreat DVD, and a friend explained the concept and content and encouraged me to watch it. I did so and then attended the Diamond Cutter Level 1 & 2 workshop. At this time, I had “run” away from home for more than a month, and I was feeling very low.
In the workshop, I learned that one of the ways to plant seeds is to meditate. In the class, the teachers taught different kinds of meditation techniques, for different purposes, and I start doing meditation for my husband.
Before I joined the workshop, I tried to talk to my husband but he didn’t want to. After the course, I went back home, and to my surprise, he was willing to reconcile with me. I really believe this was the result of the meditation.
Not only that, he was willing to join me for the next Diamond Cutter workshop. Since 2008, I had been attending many courses, including spiritual courses, and he had never wanted to join me. Diamond Cutter was the very first one, and was also the turning point of our life.
Earlier this year, during the Chinese New Year period, because of a small issue, we had another fight, this time a ‘cold war’. Previously, I would definitely have packed my bags and run away from home. But this time, I didn’t have such thoughts because I understood that it was because of the ripening of bad seeds.
Instead, I used one of the tools I had learnt from the Diamond Cutter, the three times book, to track my actions, speech and thoughts.
When it came to the relationship with my mum, in the past I had not been willing to give her a monthly allowance. So, I started to give her some money, and the more I gave, the happier I was. I even took my mum on holiday with my family and finally experienced the harmony I’d been longing for.
I had my own retail shop that provided health therapy. Before Diamond Cutter, I would provide free ser vice for some of my customers who were not able to afford it. It was a natural thing to do, however, I didn’t know what seed I was planting, but after the course, I understood it better.
The retail shop was rented, and landlord was not easy to work with. I wanted to end my tenancy early, and I tried to talk to her, but she insisted that I could only end it in July 2013. So, I did some meditation and in January 2013, she agreed to end the tenancy four months early.
I was really happy and I also used meditation to see if I could identify someone capable to take over the entire shop, but to no avail. So, I changed my approach; I told myself, if there was no one to take over my shop, I would give all my equipment and products to an old age home. One day, during my morning meditation session, I had another thought, if I want to give everything away, why not pass the entire shop to my mom?
She was old, she couldn’t work for anyone, and if she had my shop, she could earn regular income from it, she could chat with customers every day, and at the same time, she could take care of her health...
To my surprise, the next day, I heard my boss was willing to take over the whole operation.
I learnt from this incident that if we do something for the benefit of others, it will turn out to be even better that we could’ve imagined.
—Extracted from Seeds of Success