WE TALK ABOUT WHY SHOULD YOU BE A LEADER

To be honest it its just to make other happy. We define leader bring a group of people to a better place. So we talk about the reasons how to be a leader. You join a good business school, join a good company, you have to compete to be a leader. I want to tell everyone which is deep but clear. I talk about the Princeton MBA who does not know how to tie the shoe lace. It is strange in the diamond business. You see people in diamond business they are very smart but they can’t spell words at all.

A main leader in America, he becomes the leader most people vote for him though I think he is stupid. So it is not the best qualified person can be a leader. Some people who are very cruel, stupid or immoral become a leader. Some people go to university, they are very good, very kind but no one want them to be a leader.

This proves that not what you’re qualified to make you a leader. It must be something else. We talk about seeds. If we can plant mental seeds, other people will see me as a leader. If I don’t plant those seeds, it doesn’t matter how intelligent or successful I am, no on wants to follow me. So we find a new way to be a leader, even in family. This is to plant a deeper seed for being a leader. We go back to ancient wisdom to find this seed. It is very surprising to see these seeds make people to look up to you as a leader. It is you enjoy your work. You can call it seeds or karma. If you have more fun more enjoyment, passion, you will have planted the seeds.

The 1^st lifetool is to tell you how to plant this seed to become a leader. This idea of seeds has very important implication. You don’t have to campaign to compete with others to become a leader. This idea destroys the idea of competition. The way to plant the seeds to become a leader is you serve others to become successful equally. Then we go back 1500years ago, same time as shenzhang, we learn that the skills to be a leader. If you planted the mental seeds to have fun and passion, you planted the seeds people see you a leader.

What if you are a bad leader? We need another seed, to be a successful leader. The main seed there is emptiness. Geshela doesn’t stop at the outer skin. Where does Geshela starts where does Geshela stops.

When a woman gives birth a baby. She expands just like me having the big stomach during the covid. So where do you start or end it is mot fixed. So you must have fun on what you do to be a leader. So it is not easy. Sometimes you feel tired sometimes it is not easy. That’s what you have to plant the seeds. Even if you have difficulty you still enjoy to learn this skill to be a leader. If you learn this skill,  everyone sees you as a leader. If you want to be successful leader, see others’ benefits is equally important as yours. That is the mental seed that cause you to be a successful leader and not just only a leader.

Today we talk about something else, you are asking other people to follow you. Now people are following you. Then they become your responsibility, 3^rd responsibility, Don’t waste these people’s lives. My friend died a few days ago I have to attend the funeral. We lead people to meaningful thing. Don’t waste the time.

One day my teacher said there are 2 good businesses. in the world. 1^st is teaching people about pen and use pen to be successful. 2^nd is selling alcohol to others. I was shocked he is very strict in his morality. In his 85 years of life, he didn’t drink at all, Why alcohol? Think about it in their wedding, they drink alcohol. In funeral, they drink alcohol. When people are happy or sad, they drink alcohol.

Career day in Princeton. So there are big companies will interview you and if you going to work for them. I am in Princeton U, they don’t care what kind of career, but just earn money. So some of the friends receive a job in selling the alcohol. So they earn 100 thousand dollars for the first day. They are not thinking about how this alcohol affect people’s health or life. Some of my friends worked in these alcohol company over twenty years. They wrote to me, they made a mistake. Now we realize we are selling this alcohol ruins peoples health, life and the nation. Then some of my friends, who are creative get advertising job in Manhattan. Like advertising cigarette, movie, write problems of famous people in magazines. So these magazines will look for graduates in Princeton. They are young tried their best in advertising to sell the cigarette and problems of the famous. One day they wake up, usually by 45 years old, sitting on the bed, realise I wasted 25 years of life. Do you really want to advertise selling the alcohol, cigarette, problems of the famous? Who read these news?

We are talking about leaders leading people to something meaningful helping others. If you want to sell alcohol cigarette don’t come to study DCI course. You are killing people

Geshela, others have some opposite problems. My father build houses for people. My father is a house builder. One day he met my teacher. He says  I was not a very good man. I am not a person who study moral spiritual things like my son. My teacher shocked and said what !! that’s not important? That is not meaningful? You gave hundreds of people to have a place to live in. When I am talking about leader to lead something meaningful, I don’t mean to be only the DCIG teacher. If you think that’s the only meaningful thing, you don’t understand. What makes your life meaningful is using 4 steps. If you reach your goal of life through helping others to reach their goal, it is meaningful. So you can have a café in a small town. The reason, the way you run the shop, use 4 steps. The reason for you to open café is to serve and make them happy. Then your life will be happy.

I heard some of the DCIG teachers talk about what’s the most boring job? On the highway, When you collect money and give change at the stop. That’s the most boring. If you think like that you don’t understand DCI. It is the most meaningful job if you use 4 steps to serve others. Through helping others to reach the goal it is meaningful. It is nothing about the product. Of course, there is a list of bad products, alcohol, cigarette and weapons. Forget about these. Any other job, which you reject competition, you serve others, help others to reach your goal, it is meaningful. You are a leader, you are a successful leader, you are a meaningful successful leader.

A leader in Norway. About a successful example. Before I gave a talk there, I asked anyone who has question. A young man said I have a special goal. His English is not very clear. What is your goal He says I want “kurs”? He meant “kiss”. Yes, I want girls to kiss me. I say use 4 steps, it is ok. So I have a plan, you are giving a talk just 2 minutes away from the famous restaurant. So you say give what you want. So I have a plan, after the talk, I will go to the restaurant. I will kiss the ladies in the restaurant. Then I will get the kiss. So how can I get a girl friend? Generally you have to help those lonely persons.

So this young man he listened to me, go to the old folks to help and take them to movies. So he got a beautiful girl friend. So something strange happen, someone asked him why you have a girl friend suddenly after 10 years. He said it is called 4 steps. You can stop the loneliness by finding the lonely person to stop the loneliness. SO it starts to spread in Norway. So the Norway government makes it who takes the old folks to movie, then the tickets are free. So this is on the TV twice in a week. So they are teaching how to get a girl friend using 4 steps. So this young man he just asked for a “kurs” (kiss), he became a leader. He just showed people how to use 4 steps. He shows it with his life not talking.

If you reach your personal success and happiness, then you are meaningful leaders. Then it doesn’t matter what your job is. Any honored jobs. You don’t have to be a DCI teacher. You can sell houses, watermelons, stocks, cars, properties but do it with 4 steps. Do it by helping and serving your competitors, then your life is meaningful. It is not what you are selling it is meaningful. It is how you sell it. You help other people and not compete with others.

This story from Level 5. I want to repeat this. My diamond office is next to the national library in New York. The library has 100 thousand pages of ancient classic. Every lunch, I will run to the library to check these. I remember there is a bank in between my office and the library. The bank has a big glass wall. And they have this vault. It is very famous and supposed to be an unbreakable wall. Supposed you have a baby. He grows up to 9 months old. Then you want to protect him. So you buy this vault. You put the baby into the vault. Green drinks from the beginning, healthy food. Then when he grows up, teach him yoga. So he lives in the vault, healthy life. You know, one day he will still get old and die.

This is the nature of life. This is the nature of the company. So company is like people. Country is like people. Countries get old and die. Companies get old and die. What happen? The seeds wear out. You plant the tree seeds, you water it. The seeds breakout and grow. If you sit there long enough, you will see the tree fall down. The seed push the energy into it. Just like pushing the car, you push hard it moves, but then later the car stops, so same the company, country, baby will die.

Not just a leader, a successful leader, a meaningful successful leader, you have to think about how it stops, the company will stop and die one day. So you have to make sure this company at a higher way, the business will die all things change. I never forget in the diamond business, this guy well dressed, we had a conversation. What is your business. I am one of the most successful persons. I am the king of fax machine. Every office in new York has my fax machine.  Then due to this internet, then no one use fax machine anymore. So your business will die, and new business will replace it. If you understand seeds system, the products will change the workers will change the business will change. But the method, the meaningful method, by serving others to become successful, this one spreads like ripples in water. Every time you use 4 steps to help others to be successful, it is like dropping a drop of water in the water. Then this ripple goes out, the universe is limitless. No boundary, If you show kindness to someone, the energy will ripple out forever.

In one way your meaningful success can be endless. It will survive forever. We need to use 4 steps to give meaning to your leadership. This meaning never ends. Company and product will die, but this method is endless. Never die

I want to talk about a related subject. It goes well with this topic. If your business is caused by seeds, everything is the same, Then your old products will die. You will leave the company. Sooner or later, you will leave the company even if it is a success one. So if you are a leader, you want to install the 4 step culture there. You want that attitude to survive after you leave. A real leader is thinking about after they leave them. To think about it we don’t be a selfish leader, being leader for 10 or twenty years. Selfish leaders have the workers happy successful and then this leader retire. What happen to these workers and company? When the main 4 steps leader leave the company, they retire they quit the company, slowly the 4 steps culture will dies in the company. 4 steps in the company there is a life. It also can get old. It can also die. I ve seen the company go back to competition. As the person who practice 4 steps leave. The company close down.

Last thing a meaningful successful leader, how to keep this 4 steps culture in the company? I think if you want to be a successful leader, you have to think about after you leave the company, that means we have to talk about succession. Who is the next? You are not a good leader, if you don’t prepare the next leader after you. Even if everyone thinks you are a leader, even if you are a successful, meaningful leader, if you don’t train the next leader, the succession, you are not a good leader.

2500 years ago, Gautama, a great leader, Abhidharma, he says this book will also die. Good leader has to take care of the next generation leader. If you don’t think about this question, you are not a good leader. Very few leaders are like Gautama. Very few leaders see they will die too. You must  be able see the end of your company, your leadership. So you have to lead them even after you die. Think of the workers, the company will carry on even without you. Again to do this, not mainly by talking. It is by example. If people see you successful, you make your business successful by helping others successful, if they see you successful and become successful, they will still carry on even if you are not there. Then you are a perfect leader.

Summary 

To become a leader. What is the leader seed?

Enjoy your work.  You must have passion and focus. If you use this seed method, you destroy competition this concept. These 5 days, you see who has this. Like our MC, our teachers. Then you have the seeds, you see others in this. If you don’t, then you have to plant it. To become a leader, you have to enjoy it.

To become a good leader. What seed can I plant?

Emptiness. Geshe la said woman gave birth and extended. Leaders meet some problem and get tired. Leaders will meet something not smooth, what should leader think?  To enjoy to solve the problems. When you solve the problem, and enjoy people see you as a leader.

To become a successful leader.

You have to see the equality for others. When the alarm rings, the person in front of you, the person has the same quality to be successful This is the seed

To become a meaningful leader

What thing if you are not doing then it is not meaningful? Meaningless like alcohol, cigarette, gossips. All these are meaningless. So examine ourselves, what we do are meaningful or meaningless? So I shouldn’t do meaningless things. What is meaningful? 4 steps in work. Teacher mentioned something important. We will feel that what is meaningful? Only being DCI teacher? No. Only those mentioned above alcohol, drugs, weapon, then any job you are doing it is meaningful, you use 4 steps you have to remember, through serving others to be successful, then your life will be meaningful. So in this platform, people who help in study groups, aren’t they doing meaningful things? So we have insurance entrepreneur platforms, everyone who serves others and doing 4 steps helping others to reach their goal, are meaningful. Like Apple shared her marriage to use 4 steps to solve the problem, and her relationship restored harmony so she becomes a meaningful leader. Everyone her faces challenges, how do we face challenges? So through helpful to others you become a meaningful leader. Challenges enable me to become a meaningful leader. If your life you treat every challenge and use 4 steps and through serving others to be successful, then every job you do every challenge you face you use 4 steps, then you become successful, then you become a leader and a person who lead the world.

To be a perfect leader, you start to do it. People will follow you.

Q&A LIVE BY DCIG 

Q1:My son is autistic, he can talk but can’t express himself well, neither can he explain things clearly when something comes up.  For instance, he was bullied in school, the teacher witnessed it too.  But when I asked him about it, he couldn’t really tell me what happened.  Other than that, he also has trouble understanding other people. Sometimes he has some behavioral problems, I try to reason with him but often fail.  I don’t know what to do.  So my question is, how can I use the seed principle to help my son?

A: We all have problems. My dad was in a navy, he is a saint when I was a kid, I complain about my shoes until I met a man with no feet. Thus, Your problem make my problem seems very small to me. I have several students with autistic children, I can think of two examples. One was at Diamond mountain about 5 years, her son was autistic, 5 years old young boy called Max, 5 years. The whole group gave a lot of support to that mum, we always invite the mum to that class. Sometimes he’s going to interrupt in class but we all learn to be patient to him.

Now he is about 18 years old and he is very beautiful, kind and considerate to peoples.

So the first suggestion is , if you can find a group of people or friends who is also studying DCI,talk it over and agree with each other, include your son with great love with all the activity you are dealing even though its difficult.

Second person I remember is in California, this boy was serious autistic, I only go there for like 2 days or 3 days, we had agreement with mum, she said she cannot him seeds, he don’t understand. She asked me how to teach him seeds because he need seeds to change his mental capacity. So we make a nice plan that they need to go to children hospital, he will give toys to other kids, he is so autistic, his mum has to hold his hand and pass to others kids, we work like two weekend every month. Then the mum ask me to go visit the house, I want to show you something , the seeds open. The boy went to the piano and he played it beautiful classics. So autistic people has special talent and you can wake it up when you by doing good thing.

Q2. My child puts most of his energy on mobile phone every day after school, including when we are out for dinner and entertainment. His father also likes watching TV. How can I get the automatic leadership to make him listen to me, and willing to put down his phone to study actively? Thank you.

A (by T.Kelly): This is a very cool question and It is very common in modern days. This is very common for modern people, and I think we can bring back to some problems that we talk about before. E.g., When we have problem with your husband – you can try to talk to him, you can try to get angry with him, you can give him cold shoulders for weeks, does it work? In this system, if you don’t have seeds no matter what you say, it won’t work. What you want to see here is probably to see the kid willing to put down the phone and do some learning. I prob suggest that you plant a seed and direct the seed to your son. So, what seed can you plant? I suggest that you can try planting seed to help someone who may want to remove a bad habit and develop a good habit. For instant I have a friend who is addicted to Korean drama, and she wants to spend more time to do more reading. Then I will help this friend to slowly weed off from watching Korean drama and do more design material reading. So I am doing 4 steps with my friend here. After helping my friend, during my coffee meditation, I can direct the seeds to my son, or you can even direct it to your husband. So, if we have the seeds, we can change our environment even without having talked to them. So, I hope this answer is helpful for you. Thank you, Tracey, for the question.

Q3: In LT1 we know that the leader need have vision, strength and caring. So how we can plant seed to have big vision?

A: Lets go back to DCIG Level 2.

As a leader of the team, we would like to set the big vision of the team, this is a very common thinking of a leader. But in Level 8, when we talk about automatic leadership, Master Shantideva actually propose more interesting, he actually try to our mind to explore our mind to this interesting idea, instead of focus team goal, focus on individual team goal. Interestingly, MS told us that by helping individual member reach their goal, the team goal will reach as well. And strangely enough, the seeds to help individual to reach their goal, will help us to have big vision to achieve our goal

The big vision with the group is very good, in order to become successful leader, and also to have a big vision with the team, lets learn and understand our member goal and help them achieve their goal. That’s the deeper level and on the surface level, we will be able to execute vision well for the team.

Q4. After accessing my own team, I have applied the The Ferryman Leadership is applied, where team member is given freedom to made decision, but however this freedom has created mistakes and misunderstanding and too much confidence deliverables within the team.  Then I changed to The King Leadership style. But I find that this change in leadership style is demotivating the team as what they previously were able to make more decisions. And now, they need to get approval from the leader.  How can we overcome this situation where we can revert to the Ferryman style and instill trust and moral within the team and ensure quality of work?

A (by T.Penny Wong): Thanks for the question Lisa, it is amazing. I am so glad to be here with Geshela Grandpa, Sugeng and Kelly Tan. From the question, I have encountered the same problem when I started my business. At the start, Ferryman get everyone happy and motivated. Sometimes they are not so experienced, and then the leader isn’t satisfied. Then, the leader gets upset and changed to the King. This is the trouble I had before I studied DCI L8. After that I heard a story, it was the Diamond Deal. You wanted to be Ferryman – people were happy, but there were some troubles. Then, you shifted to the King – people did listen, but there was still trouble. Then now you were faced with two troubles. Now you need to understand the foundation – the pen story. When you remembered the pen story, you will understand that there’s an option 3. You can write down your goals and do 4 steps.

So back to your question, you wanted to think about which leadership style is the best, and how to have better communication, and how to get good results. So, I think the foundation is you need to be the golden king. No matter how you shift to different types of leadership style, you need the people to still choose you “Please! Please! Please be my leader! I will listen to you.” If you only got 50%, the other 50% no matter what you choose your leadership style, it is not easy moving forward.

So my suggestion:

1. Be enjoyable and happy at your work. People will want you to be their leader, then things will be easier.
2. Make the team to listen to you and have better communication, you need to have meaningful speech seeds. Plant this seed and your team will listen to you.
3. What’s the seed to help you to see you have a great result? Lifetool 10 and 11. We need to have the exchange of equal rights – all my teammates and me have the equal rights to succeed.

With the above, you will not have to worry about what type of leaderships type, very good communication and have the passion to work and work. Final thing is you will be so happy.

I had the same problem when I started my NGO biz in HK. We wanted to help some primary school kids to learn meditation. So, I used Ferryman at the beginning but the results was not so good. Cos nobody. Knows how to bring the new idea of meditation to teach in the primary school. So I changed to be the king, but actually I realized that I had the leadership seeds – I was very passion and happy with what I wanted to do, so the team supported me. And it really works, it helps my team to move forward. I hope this solution can help you.

Q5:Hi GMR, someone who has reached the give goals in mental peace, how do you feel when your family or friends passed away, are you able to face the situation peacefully. More importantly, how do you plant seeds to deal with this situation.

A:In last two months, I have two close friend die, one mother of my friend, we were friends for 50 years and I was there and stay with her for about a week and she passed a week. It’s a very sad with 3 kids and die at 2am, so much grief in the room. Few weeks later, one of our teacher passed away, Ani Pelma, a buddhist nun, she helped to start ACI, three jewels, diamond mountain. I think on one level, when I experience friends dying, I often think to myself I am doing the right thing to my life. All the rich, famous, strong people are like this. So my first reaction is, Sugeng is funny to say I am in a right business. My business is really finding death and suffering the world. When I walked away after my friend die, I am glad I am doing the right thing.

On the deeper level, I really really really really plant good seeds in my life, to be honest, when someone close to me die now, often time I will see something miracle with that people. In the case of Ani Pelma, I was there three times to see her where I need to drive about 12 hours. I ask how do you feel , do you afraid, she laugh and completely relax, no, you taught me what to do, and you taught me for 25 years and I am ready.  You can’t believe what I am saying right now. She said its like wonderful, amazing. So I think if we work hard and plant good seeds, my seeds planting is not perfect and I make mistake also, but I make good seeds in trying. Recently it was completely beautiful and happy thing, those people who work their whole life who has wonderful journey, they are happy.

Q6: I have no religious faith, no plans for the future. That is, I don’t believe in the next life, and don’t consider the issue of dying. Will this kind of mentality affect the power of seeds?

A (by T.Kelly): Thank you for the question. This is a very cool question that most people when they come into the system, they will ask this. Now in our foundation that we learnt in DCI system, it says that seeds work no matter your religion, nationality, race or skin colour. It doesn’t matter. It is the law of seeds. If you use the 4 steps, it will work. So it’s okay if you have no religion. You do have a goal that you want to work towards right? So when you have a goal, you just need to use the 4 steps and it will work. And something additional for you when we talk about the power of seeds, we always mentioned about the part on motivation. When we plant a seed it is accompanied by a bigger motivation. What’s that bigger motivation – to be a living example. So, by using the 4 steps and if I get successful then you can be a living example for many other people, especially your team. We see this is as a bigger love for others. With this personal example by using the 4 steps, when you gain your own success then you can lead others to a better place. So I hope this answer helps. Thank you so much for your question.

Q7: Does equality really exist in reality?  Or is it just an utopian idea?  We study hard everyday in order to be able to make a living in the future, to live in a better house, to get into a better school, and to find a better partner, and to be a better version of myself, etc. By saying “better”, we are already making comparison.  If we all get the same thing because of equality, then what’s the purpose of working hard?

A: Thank you, this is very good question, I think there are two part. First, whether equality really exist in the reality. All of us had heard about the Pen story and everything coming from our seeds. Do you agree that equality also coming from our seeds. Now, we ask whether equality really exist in reality, means we don’t see it yet, but can it exist? It’s just means that we don’t have the seeds to see equality in reality. If you want to see equality then you need to -plant seeds to remove inequality in your life, best exercise is equality and self exchange, both in level 8.

Second question, you are asking when we all get the same thing, what is the purpose of working hard. Our like to invite you to reconsider the five goals and the lifetool 1. A lot of people may think egoistic why we have to focus ourself. First of all, if we are still having difficult life, how can we still help others. I don’t know whether lunch or dinner if my family member can still eat, then I wouldn’t be here.

I would like encourage everyone to strive for the five goals, especially the fifth goal to become super hero, to help others to achieve the five goals.

To answer whether we need to work hard, because we will equality in our world now, let’s strive our best to achieve our five goals and at the same times help others to achieve their five goals, so everyone will get better.

So congratulation, you are on the path to achieve all those things. I hope my answer is helpful.

Q8: I am a R&D manager. The purpose is to create curriculum that helps preschoolers plant the seeds to become leaders in the future. They are very young  so please can you give us some advices on how to help them

A (by T.Penny Wong): I like your question a lot because I have 2 daughters. I will answer your question in 2 levels.

One is the shallow cause, another is the deeper cause.

(Are the kids are 5 to 6 years old?) In my opinion, what leadership means to me and the kids are the same. So for the shallow cause, I will teach them the 3 important things – the mission, the care and the passion. Let the kids have the passion, if they have the passion they will enjoy their work and be future leaders. If you are interested, you can learn DCI level 2 – how to find their talent, passion and purpose. This is the best to learn in my opinion for my kids, instead of mathematics, etc. When they are older, they can go to school and learn this academic.

Secondly, let them know how to help them to learn how to be successful. Bring them into a group let them work together, to help each other to be success

Thirdly, teach them how to do meditation. Because kids liketo play their mobile phone and internet, give them some techniques to go back inside.

However, all these will not be successful because there is no deeper cause.

So, the most important thing is help another development manager to help him create a successful product and do coffee meditation. Every year I developed a lot of different programs on how to use DCI seed system to achieve the 5 goals.

The main secrets to help students to success are:

1. Through 4 steps
2. You walk the talk to everything that you have teach the kids

This is my answer for your question.

Q9: Why are they 65 seeds every finger snap. How can we plant seeds to become gold emperor? Start to love from your xx and whole world?

 A:I would like to start with the gold king question. It’s a pattern, we called a pattern, countless being, we said universe has no end. It should be countless faces, body in the universe. But actually they are only 5 kinds of faces in the universe.

Even though the seeds are infinite, the way they can interact in person life are not infinite, somethings are the same but they are still empty. We can say something has no nature of its own but its still always the same. Because the interaction are not infinite. About the gold king seeds, these are much deeper way to explain it, there are many ways in your world you don’t think about it, like who make the phone to like this nowadays, then you don’t worry about it , Geshela just use it buy it. Geshela does it work? Ya, it work, ok then shut up and don’t worry where it came from. So phone and telephone its ok we can do that. About being a leader, if its doesn’t come automatically, we like to plant the deep seed to leadership, then we go to our work and everybody said oh penny please be the leader, and just like the telephone penny doesn’t think about it. And he speck to his wife carmen, not like home, everyone listen to you at job not at home, its seems listen to you,. It’s a sign that he is using seeds system. If you use the seeds and have fun at your job, having job in the job means if the job is not fun, then u need to be a little bit more crazy, even though its not fun, u have to be fun. Company bankrupt? Fix ti! You are planting a automatic seeds like penny, he has fun in his work and all his friend in

Have fun even though tis not fun, then become automatic leader. Life is not so serious but you have to be like this, good news is always somebody have good life better than you.